We are responsible for our own safe space. A place that is protected from the madness of the world, one only we ourselves can touch. A place where we find comfort without external validation. A place built by our own acceptance, separate from people, places and situations. “The Self”
"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve" Napoleon Hill
We do not have to become one with all of our experiences.
We all have the capability to reserve space within us that is protected; a space from which we observe the experiences and feeling passing us by. We do not have to become one with those experiences. When we step outside of this space is when we are no longer observing, but instead become the experiencer. We become so attached to “this is happening to me” instead of this is happing around me. The thought blocks our view of how to adjust, react or even speak.
Think of it this way; a car cuts you off in traffic…I haven’t even started and you already tensed up right? This isn’t happening to you and has nothing to do with you, but yet you will allow it to shift you from a peaceful place to complaining about it the rest of your day. You stepped out from your space of “observer” to the “experiencer”. Your choice, but what do you gain? Nothing. If we stay as the observer of the external experience then we can simple acknowledge the experience happened and accept it. We are not accepting it was ok that it happened, but that it has happened, it’s done. Choose your action or let it go.
Every time we allow an external experience to pull us from our safe space; we have given our power away. It doesn’t sit well right… (pshh I'm not giving my power away), but we are.
You have given someone or something power over your state of mind.
So how do we cultivate a safe space?
Self- Acceptance
I love hearing about people’s journey to become the greatest version of themselves, but often they lose sight of something very important. The best version of us is not one that is perfect or fixed or changed. The best version of ourselves is accepting whole heartedly who we are with all of our experiences passing us by, good or bad. The best version of ourselves is taking what we are dealt and making the ABSOULUTE best of it. It is accepting where we are so that we can get to where we need to be. Your probably asking, what does this have to do with keeping your #@%* together when a car cuts you off in traffic?
When you are in full acceptance of yourself you will genuinely want to protect your peace at all cost. When you do not need to react to the external things around you because you accept that you are in a much better place than that happening around you then guess what you keep your peace. When you do not need external validation like an apology or verbally telling someone how wrong they are then you are not at the mercy of someone or something. Yes it’s nice to receive an apology and yes its healthy to communicate your dislikes, but to reach a place where you don’t need it to keep your peace; that is golden. When you are observing and not attaching yourself to say … someone cutting you off in traffic. You’re in your safe space and some stranger you will never see again is not altering your state of mind… You own your power and you guard your safe space.
Try this:
Does this deserve my energy?
Is this worth losing my peace?
What can I learn from this?
Do I want to give away my power?
Is this situation greater than the love I have for myself?
I hope you enjoyed this quick read (just a bit of my loving thoughts). May it bring you a little light and inspiration to cultivate your safe space within.
To Love & Inspire
Lorena - Selfcare Soul Wellness
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